Its good, but is it overrated?
SEX- A 3 letter word that is frowned upon in some cultures unless done after marriage.
But really, how many people wait til after marriage to engage in sex? I know I didn’t (proof is 2 kids and no wedding ring). It’s rare that people wait, but its a beautiful thing for the people who do. The idea of giving yourself to only one person is smiled upon by God, but seems far fetched. I personally know 1 person who waited and I’m so proud of that individual!!
Some people would argue that sex is wonderful and they can’t live without it. Others would say sex is okay and they don’t really get anything out of it. Until I was 25, I didnt really enjoy having sex. Before 25, I usually only had sex because my partner wanted to do it. Now, at age 26 (27 on Jan 31st) sex is good. Maybe its because of my partner or maybe its because I know what feels good to me and my pleasure is important.
I heard that women don’t reach their sexual maturity until early 40s and guys around age 18. That is a big difference. But, people are constantly having sex regardless of their maturity level because it ‘feels good’. Why did I put that in quotation marks? Well, sex doesn’t always feel good, yet people do it anyway.
So, is sex overrated?
There are so many porno sites, adult video stores, adult content filled movies, strip clubs and adult toy stores that sex is definitely apart of the culture.
Then there are the meetings for people addicted to sex, classes to teach people better sexual techniques and clubs for people wanting to have sex with other couples. It just seems like there is something dealing with sex out there for everyone.
It use to be a time when men put more emphasis on sex then women did, but now women are just as addicted as men. In fact, some would argue that women are more aggressive than men. I can personally relate to this because there are times when I just can’t get enough and I get frustrated when its over.
So back to the original question, Sex is GOOD, but is it overrated?
I do think sex is overrated, but I personally enjoy the act. As long as people are having safe sex and being responsible for any thing that happens (diseases, children, etc), then they are headed in the right direction.
January 26, 2010 at 1:36 am
i feel everything you are saying…. sex is a great act but when your done you dont want to… some people use it as a challenge and thats where i have the problem… me i feel that its a union between 2 people and should be shared with the same 2 people… i see people now having sex with random people kids by 3 different people or more… cheating on there gf… what is the real point.
i can honestly say that i will be waiting to find the perfect woman b4 i decide to make that decision again i almost had a child by a woman that i dont even talk to anymore and i see that as what would i do if the child would have not been lost. im 26 too and i am ready to be settle with one woman and live my life the way it should be happy…..
January 26, 2010 at 5:59 pm
It’s nice to know that you are interested in settling down with 1 person because there are so many guys out there trying to maintain a ‘player’ image. To me, that just means they haven’t grown up. It is God’s intention that we settle down, get married and have children. I’ve complete the puzzle (1/3 of the way) and I do believe my time will come to have the other 2/3 completed within this lifetime.
I do have 2 different baby daddy’s and have accepted the fact that if I want more children (& i do) I will have 3 baby daddy’s. Yes, I am a statistic.
You bring up a good question, “What is the real point?” Why do people sleep around, cheat, play games with other people’s emotions & feelings? There is too much going on out there to have sex with random people.
January 26, 2010 at 9:38 pm
WOW!!!! you said a mouth full. When I was active, I enjoyed sex very much. I haven’t had sex since I become a Chrisitian, a looooooog time ago. The bible says fornicators will not inherit God’s kingdom. I try to follow God’s word as closely as possible, to the best of my imperfect ability. I don’t judge those that have sex, as consenting adults, that is not my job, It’s like you said, it’s so crazy out there, who wouldn’t want to be monogomous. I do hope that before I leave this earth that I meet and marry that someone and can once again enjoy sex.